In a world of busy meaningless emails and texts full of gushy words, sometimes the best way to say “I love you” is to kick it old school and go analog.
Valentines Day 2011 was sneaking up on me and it was my first time having to actually deal with the holiday. You heard me correctly; at last, I was no longer single. Even though I knew the whole idea of Valentines Day is really just a deceiving commercial plot, I still felt somewhat obligated to something special for my someone special.
So what was I to do? It’s my first Valentine’s Day that I had to worry about! Being a naive to the world of woo’ing a woman, I had quite a bit of brainstorming to do. Throughout most of my 16 previous single Valentines Days , I’ve always dreamed about what I would do to that special girl once I found her. My wild daydreams ranged from lavish dinner dates to a simple phone call full of admiration. But now I was single no more and had to actually put one of these fantisies into reality.
So my first action was to think about what this girl would appreciate. Despite knowing her for a little over a year now, I still had to think about what she would enjoy the most. She’s not really the type to expect some outrageous planned date to the moon and back so that was out of the question (which was a good thing as well because we both had class the next morning). Actually, the more I thought about it the more I realized she probably wasn’t even really going to care what I did. Mostly because she seemed just as apathetic about the holiday as I was. She really gave the impression that she just might not really care at all. But still for some reason, deep down inside of me I wanted to give into the holiday and tell her I loved her some special way or another.
After thinking about what to do for a few weeks, Valentine’s Day was just three days away and I still had no idea. Disappointed in myself, I went and got a lemonade at Adelle’s Coffee house near my home town. As I sat there sipping away on my delightful drink, the owner called out and said, “Hey Ty, you coming to craft night Thursday? We’re making old school Valentine’s Day cards!” My mind immediately snapped into gear.
So I spent the whole night laughing with friends, discussing Valentine’s Day, and composing the perfect analog valentine I could think of. After a night of hard efforts and missing out on what should have been homework time, my analog valentine was finished. It had a classic cheesy vibe that properly displayed how we both felt about Valentine’s Day. I cut out a big heart out of some pink scrapbooking paper and decorated it with some hearts and a flower. On the front it jokingly read, “I guess you’ll do,” a comment that I knew would strike the sarcastic and joking key of humor and make her laugh. I proudly took it home and eagerly waited until Valentine’s Day.
When the morning arrived I drove to her school and tracked down her car in the obnoxiously large parking lot of the public high school. I cleverly made sure nobody was looking, slipped the valentine under her windshield wiper, and left it for her to find. And it was in those very seconds that I once again had an analog epiphany. As overstated and rubbed in our faces that it is, I realized that these little seemingly insignificant analog creations can be one of the best mediums to carry a heavy emotion like love. Taking the time to make a real concrete object as a portrayal these feelings is the next best thing to human emotion itself sometimes. To me, no digital messaging that we’ve all come accustomed to could have truly actualized the way I think or feel. To me that calls for something more tangible and in a sense like this, more analog. This little crudely made heart shaped valentine made me realize that the effort we put into our analog creations can be strong enough even to capture a feeling as strong as love.
So make it lovely. Make it meaningful. Make it analog.
And yes, she loved the valentine.