The Golden Rules of Love

1

Natalie Lue is a relationship expert and writes the online Blog Baggagereclaim.co.uk - With Valentine's Day coming up soon, we asked her for some Lomo love advice! Read on for her thoughts...

Your love for someone is something you take everywhere with you like your well loved camera – don’t compartmentalise how you feel, put limits on it, or forget the depth of your feelings for another person. This helps you to be conscious in your relationships and also conscientious about them in your day to day life.

As a lomographer, “every moment is monumental” and it’s the same for relationships. Sharing your moments, events, ups, downs, hopes and dreams, and your life together with someone, is monumental even on the very quiet, ‘normal’, routine days. Don’t take it for granted – to love and be loved is something that many people strive for every day, so embrace it.

Love, much like Lomography isn’t an interference in your life but a part of it. Sometimes we can be reluctant to let someone in, to adjust our loves to accommodate our relationship and the needs of another person in the way that they will us, but love can’t prosper if it’s regarded as something that causes you to lose.

Lomographers are encouraged to shoot from the hip – don’t hide behind excuses, unchallenged beliefs that are getting in the way of forging a healthy, loving relationship, and any other constraints you may be placing yourself under. Try your relationship without the misplaced fears so that you don’t create unnecessary obstacles.

Get up close to your partner to experience true intimacy. No, I don’t mean sex although when you have genuine emotional intimacy, sex helps to foster that connection and bond you further. Many people try to experience love with walls to protect them from having anyone get too close – this makes for relationships that lack real substance. Feel all of your feelings and be prepared to communicate.

Don’t Over-Think. If you spend too much energy intellectualising your relationship, you’ll stagnate in inaction. Often we have to take a leap of faith as opposed to trying to think out a situation to the Nth degree.

Be fast – trust in yourself. Relationships require self-esteem, boundaries and a willingness to trust your judgement and instincts. When people struggle in love, they often don’t trust their instincts so they either miss out on a great opportunity or stay in a relationship past its sell by date, out of fear.

You don’t have to know beforehand whether this is going to be ‘It’ or if they are ‘The One’. Especially when you have just started dating or your relationship is relatively new, it’s easy to slip into the trap of pushing for confirmation that this is ‘It’, which when done too soon or when you don’t know each other enough, sucks the life out of the relationship.

Just like you won’t always understand your Lomographs, you won’t always be able to make sense out of what another person think, feels, and does. Don’t try to control the uncontrollable or rationalise the irrational.

Remain true to you and listen to your inner voice. Other people’s relationship values are not the same as yours. If what you’ve learned about relationships is getting in the way of giving you a healthy, loving relationship, throw out your socialisations and any misguided rules and ideas, and work out who you are so that you can experience real love.

Natalie Lue writes the online relationship Blog Baggagereclaim.co.uk

written by Natalie Lue on 2011-02-10 in #lifestyle #day #golden #natalie #love #lomography #rules #lue #analogue-lifestyle #valentines

One Comment

  1. liachan
    liachan ·

    really loved this article... got me a lot to think about :) or not, maybe it just took the words I needed to hear out of my own subconscious.

More Interesting Articles

  • The 10 Golden Rules: Valentines Edition

    written by Cupid on 2015-02-09 in #news
    The 10 Golden Rules: Valentines Edition

    We think Lomography's 10 Golden Rules can be adapted to cover all manner of subjects, including love. So just in time for Valentines Day, we asked Cupid to swap his bow for a pen and lay down the law ... Read on to find out more!

  • LomoAmigo: Singer FEMME Goes Analogue with the Fisheye

    written by hannah_brown on 2014-12-04 in #people #lomoamigos
    LomoAmigo: Singer FEMME Goes Analogue with the Fisheye

    Electro-pop princess FEMME is a London-based singer who has recently finished her American tour. We gave her a Fisheye 2 and asked her to document some of her adventures in analogue. Read on for the full article.

    1
  • My First Lomo Affair: Waggrad00 and the Diana Mini

    written by icequeenubia on 2014-10-02 in #lifestyle
    My First Lomo Affair: Waggrad00 and the Diana Mini

    Who would've thought that a camera as petite as the Diana Mini can make such a big impact on Julia's life? This sweet camera helped rekindle her love for photography and paved the way for her to meet new friends. Read on to know more about waggrad00's first lomo affair with the Diana Mini!

    5
  • Shop News

    LCA-120 Film Bundle

    LCA-120 Film Bundle

    Shoot more with LC-A 120 without breaking your budget! The Phoblographer Editor’s Choice Award Winner now comes with a 120 format film at 15% off!

  • Presenting the Lomo LC-A-to-Z

    written by jillytanrad on 2014-06-11 in #news
    Presenting the Lomo LC-A-to-Z

    Here at Lomography, we don’t only deliver the fantastic goodies, but we also try to provide you with the wisdom you’ll need on your lomo adventures. We gave you the 10 Golden Rules, didn’t we, and it has bestowed you with a cred and attitude hat lomographers are admired for. In celebration of the Lomo-LC-A’s 30th Anniversary, we are proud to present the Lomo LC-A-to-Z, brought to you by Professor Lomo van Graphy. Watch and learn!

    3
  • The New Petzval Lens Is Now Available For Regular Purchase!

    written by tomas_bates on 2014-08-14 in #news
    The New Petzval Lens Is Now Available For Regular Purchase!

    The day has finally come! We are very excited to tell you that you can now order the Lomography New Petzval Lens for immediate delivery from the Online Shop or purchase it in your hands at Gallery Stores. To put full focus on our favorite portrait lens, soon we will be hosting special launch parties in our Gallery stores all over the globe! So do not miss an opportunity to become part of the sensational New Petzval Lens family today.

    1
  • Requested Posts: Film Photography Day 2015 Edition

    written by Julien Matabuena on 2015-03-25 in #world #news
    Requested Posts: Film Photography Day 2015 Edition

    Hey, lomographers! Have your stories heard and lovely photos seen by your fellow community members and analog photography enthusiasts. Read this special call-out for community-written articles to be published between March 30 and the much-awaited Film Photography Day on April 12. As always, writing for the Magazine earns you Piggies!

  • Shop News

    Fuji Instax Wide 300

    Fuji Instax Wide 300

    Shoot wider and bigger with this new instax camera that has film format twice the size of the instax mini films!

  • Transient Living: Armitage & McMillan in Denver, Colorado

    written by maliha on 2015-01-07 in #world #locations
    Transient Living: Armitage & McMillan in Denver, Colorado

    If you want to know the heart of a person, peek inside his/her wardrobe! And no, nobody famous said that; I only just made it up. But really, don't you think it's true? After all, the way we dress screams our personality; at least for most of us. And that is why, as soon as I land on a new city, one of the things I absolutely must do is find the local boutiques. Sure, I love the fancy chain boutiques as much as the next person, but there's just something else about a local clothing store. It's unique!

  • Stacy_mcpommes and her Weapon of Choice: Lubitel 166B

    written by icequeenubia on 2014-10-09 in #lifestyle
    Stacy_mcpommes and her Weapon of Choice: Lubitel 166B

    Not knowing exactly how to do deal with its odd appearance, Nadica first regarded the Lubitel 166B as a complete monstrosity. She left it untouched on her shelf for months after receiving it as a gift. After using other Lomo cameras and getting familiar with the rules on exposure, she finally had the courage to test it. Find out what made stacy_mcpommes fall in love with the Lubitel 166B in this installment of Weapon of Choice!

    5
  • A Chat with the Founder of STENOFLEX, Eric Marais

    written by jacobs on 2015-03-04 in #people #lifestyle
    A Chat with the Founder of STENOFLEX, Eric Marais

    Eric Marais is the founder of the portable dark-room experience, STENOFLEX. We recently had the chance to ask him some questions and he was kind enough to answer us! Read on to find out more about his company, his interest in photography and what's next for STENOFLEX!

    1
  • Shop News

    Petzval Buddies

    Petzval Buddies

    Petzval lens are designed for a Canon or Nikon SLR mounts and a selection of brass or black for each camera brand is available in our stores. And start shooting with images full of sharpness, crispness and bokeh effects!

  • FEElim Photography's Samantha Talks About Pre-wedding Photography with the Petzval Lens

    written by zoeyeung on 2014-06-17 in #lifestyle
    FEElim Photography's Samantha Talks About Pre-wedding Photography with the Petzval Lens

    After our previous little chat with Samantha of FEElim Photography, we just couldn't wait to learn more about her pre-nuptial photography experience using our Petzval Art Lens, and were eager for some tips on how to use the lens for a prenup shoot. Read on for our interview with Samantha and of course, get hold on her amazing photography along with a few pre-wedding shots!

  • April Workshops and Events UK

    written by hannah_brown on 2015-03-24 in #people #events
    April Workshops and Events UK

    Spring is our favourite month so we are putting on some special workshops and events at our Soho Store. We have organised our first ever LCA 120 workshop and on April 11th you can join us for our great big Analogue Day Party. Read on for the full details.

    2
  • March Workshops and Events at Lomography Soho

    written by hannah_brown on 2015-03-02 in #world #news #events
    March Workshops and Events at Lomography Soho

    Those long, frosty, dark nights are finally behind us. It's time to dust of your Diana F+; wipe down your LC-A Wide and get shooting again! Join us for some fabulous workshops and events in Soho and come and visit us in March at the Birmingham NEC as part of The Photography Show 2015. Read on for the full line up.