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The "thank you" complex

Why are we in the butler mode all the time?

I love lomo. I love lomo shots and i love lomo people.

What i deeply hate is this need of coming back to my home to thank me for liking shots. I know you will see my likes, i know that you like my likes, and i would like you to like my shots too.

I would love if you drop me a line, ask for something (well, except for money…) or told me my horoscope. Instead, each time i have notifications is always this mandatory thank you… like saying Amen in specific parts of mass sermons. BU-HU!

written by trincheiras

14 comments

  1. fisher-price

    fisher-price

    You haven't thanked me for liking this blog entry, how rude ;-)

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  2. trincheiras

    trincheiras

    @fisher-price : what a nice sense of humor, you had to be british :p

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  3. pitfall

    pitfall

    I've given some thought to it too, one time and another... At first here, I seldomly drooped a thank you for the ones that "liked" me, but as I come to realize that most of the people that I "liked" came back to say thanks, I think I just got caught in the mood, and nowadays I frequently do the same. Sometimes it's a way to say hi, sometimes it becomes a way to start conversation, sometimes it's just thanks... but it is indeed awkward when you come to think that it might become an automated response... almost an obligation tied to some sort of netiquette. Personally, I say thanks because I'm actually grateful for the likes, and it's neat to communicate to the ones that visit my home, even if it's just to say thanks. But be sure that if you like my shots, or even just visit my home, I'll be thankful for it, even if I don't drop you the "thank you" line. And no... I don't believe in horoscopes heheheheh =D

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  4. kimpy05

    kimpy05

    I guess it depends on the person... ^_^

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  5. mephisto19

    mephisto19

    well... i used to thank everybody and typed each message (so no copy and paste), but that is just too much - even with those like-rumbles. so i stopped it again

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  6. bloomchen

    bloomchen

    i write a message to those user and thank them but ask them to not write "thank you!" all the time because it´s so time eating and they should really spent their time on something else.

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  7. saidseni

    saidseni

    I say "thank you" when there is no pictures to like because I already liked them or because I just don't like them. No fake likes (and no copy/paste)! So that's how I started to do the thank you thing that I hate so much! :) And also because now I have much more notifications and I sometimes don't have the time to search everybody's home for pictures I like... I want to stop it and just click "mark all as read" but then I see everybody saying thank you to each other and I feel bad... momma told me better! ;)

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  8. saidseni

    saidseni

    BTW, what's your sign? Bom, eu tb só leio os da Dica da Semana... :)

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  9. adam_g2000

    adam_g2000

    you make a very interesting point. personally, I don't really mind if people thank me or not, I browse the photos here *for me*, for inspiration - not because someone has liked my pictures (though recognition is nice). however I do try to thank if someone has been inspired. if it's one or two, cool, but as @mephisto19 says it would be too hard to go through them all. I never thank for liking my articles as I don't write them for me - I don't mean that in an arrogant way. I always thank @atria007 and @grazie as without their very early support I don't think I'd be such a devoted member of the community - and their replies are always lovely. Occasionally I will also thank people like @bloomchen for their likes when I regard them as better *artists* than I am and their likes are gratefully received.

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  10. trincheiras

    trincheiras

    i am not against thanking, for many reasons, such as you pointed out @adam_g2000 :) but sometimes if i like let's say ten shots of some users each day, they will come back each day and leave the same thank you message... feels like people don't even want to know who is liking them, or bother to know a little more about the other side. i'm a natural born curious (and a hopeless romantic...) :) i always check out who's been around my home. maybe not on the same day or week... but i do. because i like it. i don't always put likes, because if i don't like this is a place where i don't have to be polite (enough of that shit at work) and i am humble to thank lomographers that added something to my perception of this wonderful world :) maybe we should spread more love instead of ratings...

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  11. bloomchen

    bloomchen

    @adam_g2000: wow, what a compliment. thanks. however i don´t regards myself as better than someone else or whatsoever. shooting analogue means to some degree having luck. mainly if shooting like i do and not following concepts. my approach is different. i regard user like oneira1927 as very creative and user like upic as outstanding photographers. upic is a good example as she comes across an album with only 5 shots and those are so damn good that she takes out every single one of mine. @all: sorry for being off topic.

    in matters of likes: i always "pay back" with likes too and almost never say thanks. only like @saidseni if there are no shots i can like. and even then i think that there are going to be some shots to like soon.

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  12. mochilis

    mochilis

    You're completely right! I used to thank and check the latest album of everyone who had liked my pics... But then the amount of work and things to do outside the lomo community grew exponentially, so I had to stop thanking... and I felt bad about it. Now I try to manage my time and check the homes of my friends' and those who have been around and answer questions or comments, but I'll have to avoid feeling bad for not thanking or not visiting regularly, as I don't have time - not even for taking pics. :S
    Anyway, THANK YOU for making us think a bit about this :)

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  13. hervinsyah

    hervinsyah

    Thank you very much for writing the same thing that I've been thinking. You don't have to answer this =D

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  14. alex34

    alex34

    There's a choice between thanking everybody and thanking people you've also become a 'friend' with-who follows your work just as you follow theirs. I appreciate the fact that you have a choice about who you 'friend', since sometimes people become a fan of your work and, when I look at their work, I feel it would be dishonest to reciprocate-too much bad photography out there masquerading as 'art', and we are all allowed to feel differently and respond differently to different things. If I never see another album of double or triple exposures, for example, I personally would be quite happy. But I always try to thank friends-it's just good manners.

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